it's all coming back to me now...
I have often been labeled as a critical person and received many criticism myself, but up till today, I have never truly realized what it means to be critical of others and to openly received criticisms from others....
Sometimes, I wonder why I am able to easily dismiss a person's comments and criticisms, to carelessly put it aside without much thought...... and yet suffer countless sleepless nights over a comment put forward by another.
What really makes a comment by person A to resonate more deeply and profoundly with you compared to a comment by person B?
I guess each of us have the ability to discern which comment and criticism should be taken lightly and which should be taken bravely with stride; though it is natural to think that the relevance of the comments and criticisms is wholly dependent on the person who actually utters it, I think that such notions are rather superficial.
If you feel that it's contents strike close to home, your response will be more or less similar, regardless of the person who made it; it's just that if the comments were to come from your enemies, you will have a natural tendency to balk back at them, strongly denying it whereas if it were made by your supporters, you will thank them for the thoughtfulness of their observations, promising you will look into the matter as soon as possible.
However, even though different people made the comment, it does not alter the validity of it's contents; deep down inside you know that it does not change it's truth a single bit. It's just that it is less painful to hear the truth when it comes from someone who you are not at odds with.
But then, I must fairly admit that certain people, no matter where the comment came from or who made the comment, they still make no notice of it. Somehow they managed to convinced themselves that their actions are 'perfect in everyway', completely disregarding the fact that our actions are plagued with flaws and imperfections. How they could continue living with such notions in their head simply escapes me.
Today, I realized that it takes a whole loads of courage for one to be able to take criticisms with stride, without reverting to the normal relfex actions one normally exhibits when something unfavorable is put forward to us i.e absolute denial, anger and lashing back.
One could simply choose to ignore such comments and completely insulate oneself from it; one could invoke some form of censorship which blocks all forms of criticism towards us. We might be able to secure ourselves some peace of mind knowing that what we say or do would never be questioned or put under the microscope.
Even though I felt that the so-called 'peace' would eventually turn to defeaning silence. A 'sterile' environment where free thoughts and non-conformity are frowned upon.
One would be well to remember that complacency does not and will not lead to change.
Besides, stagnant water which aren't flowing are more prone to decay, is it not?
Sometimes, I wonder why I am able to easily dismiss a person's comments and criticisms, to carelessly put it aside without much thought...... and yet suffer countless sleepless nights over a comment put forward by another.
What really makes a comment by person A to resonate more deeply and profoundly with you compared to a comment by person B?
I guess each of us have the ability to discern which comment and criticism should be taken lightly and which should be taken bravely with stride; though it is natural to think that the relevance of the comments and criticisms is wholly dependent on the person who actually utters it, I think that such notions are rather superficial.
If you feel that it's contents strike close to home, your response will be more or less similar, regardless of the person who made it; it's just that if the comments were to come from your enemies, you will have a natural tendency to balk back at them, strongly denying it whereas if it were made by your supporters, you will thank them for the thoughtfulness of their observations, promising you will look into the matter as soon as possible.
However, even though different people made the comment, it does not alter the validity of it's contents; deep down inside you know that it does not change it's truth a single bit. It's just that it is less painful to hear the truth when it comes from someone who you are not at odds with.
But then, I must fairly admit that certain people, no matter where the comment came from or who made the comment, they still make no notice of it. Somehow they managed to convinced themselves that their actions are 'perfect in everyway', completely disregarding the fact that our actions are plagued with flaws and imperfections. How they could continue living with such notions in their head simply escapes me.
Today, I realized that it takes a whole loads of courage for one to be able to take criticisms with stride, without reverting to the normal relfex actions one normally exhibits when something unfavorable is put forward to us i.e absolute denial, anger and lashing back.
One could simply choose to ignore such comments and completely insulate oneself from it; one could invoke some form of censorship which blocks all forms of criticism towards us. We might be able to secure ourselves some peace of mind knowing that what we say or do would never be questioned or put under the microscope.
Even though I felt that the so-called 'peace' would eventually turn to defeaning silence. A 'sterile' environment where free thoughts and non-conformity are frowned upon.
One would be well to remember that complacency does not and will not lead to change.
Besides, stagnant water which aren't flowing are more prone to decay, is it not?
posted by wanaimran at
10:28 PM
1 Comments:
I'm so excited by this post because there are so many aspects of it I could write about.
From the almost innocent name-calling which I have to endure (apart from C3PO, I'm inclined to be called tok kampung..haha) to the sheer apathetic state of the country...
The possibilities to branch out out from this topic are endless; in due time, I guess...
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